Own Who You Are
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Hey, just for the general public.
There’s like emotional aftercare right and most people who do aftercare- this is what they think about right?
Emotional aftercare is extremely important but you Need to make sure your partner is physically taken care of afterwards as well!
I see a lot of doms talking about aftercare but not mentioning anything more than a shower of Bagh as far as taking care of their partner physically afterwards.
You need to make sure they go pee right after a scene!
For impact play if they’re bruising, inflamed, or raw afterwards put ointment on it Before you put lotion on it. If their skin’s just a bit red it’s okay to just put lotion on.
For bondage, you need to make sure you put ointment on rope burns and massage out the joints and muscles that have been trapped in place for the past hour.
Sometimes your partner is too drained for a shower in which it’s Your job to clean them up! Get a damp warm wash cloth and make sure their all clean.
If your partner has a chronic illness you need to make sure their getting the right care for that afterwards!
The point is, take care of your partner after a scene
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on terms of aftercare mental check ins are so good. if they arent responsive make sure to ease them back into reality slowly, gently, be kind and get them things they wont be able to ask for like water
remind them even if you do an extra rough scene that they are safe and can be comfortable, and they arent hated or despised or only a sex object. that they arent dirty or awful for liking the things they do
As someone who has a whole arsenal of health and medical problems yes please.
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Spoopy Season Safety
Oh my god reblog to save a me thank you
Reblogging even though it’s way past Halloween bc this is an important reminder!
Stay away from anything with charcoal during this season if you are on ANY medication!!!
Extra kudos for providing alternatives for Spooky Black Food.
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Repeat After Me…
It is better to have no Daddy, than a shitty Daddy…
It is better to have no Daddy, than a shitty Daddy…
It is better to have no Daddy, than a shitty Daddy…I speak to far too many little ones who come tell me about how they are afraid their Daddies, who are treating them with little regard, are going to leave them. Here’s the truth little girl/man: I hope they do. That type of dynamic is damaging.
Gaining any old half ass Daddy, isn’t the prize that validates your submission. Gaining a good Daddy, who sees who you really are, and treats your submission with respect, is what will validate your submission.
Don’t sit on the pot, when you deserve the throne.
JerseyDaddy🌹
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As a dom, you’ve no right to break a sub, if you don’t hold them together afterwards.
Aftercare is not only a must, it’s something every dom should sincerely want to give and share with their sub. If you want a sub to truly open up and be vulnerable with you then you need to put sincere effort into making them feel safe doing so.
In my experience, nothing makes a sub more willing to not only give up control but turn the filth up to 10 while doing so, than being made to feel completely safe and cared for by their dom. That extremely slutty and nasty side of your sub resides within their emotional vulnerability.
Do your fucking job and show your sub you’re worthy of being let past their defenses to said vulnerability and you will see a side of them nobody else ever will, fulfilling your own needs in the process.
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A Dear Future Dominant Letter… by elegant-submissive-nj (sadly deactivated)
“Dear Future Dominant,
Submissive women think and feel differently. We feel everything. We want everything. The ugly parts of you we want as well. Submission is a great gift that will be bestowed upon you but such a loving soulful submissive. You can not pick and choose what parts are worthy to share with her. Please learn her. Learn who she is first. Place the hands you own on her face as you take her hand on a powerful path. Understand the why of how she holds walls so high. Take each brick and throw them to the ground. Break down and be raw. Dominant’s should be vulnerable too. Understand nurturing. Love yourself before you love her. Make yourself a priority. Allow the submissive to hold you high and help you become the best man you can be. Never stop learning and knowledge is power. Make sure you are transparent in expectations. Laugh. Laugh a ton. Kiss her forehead and smile. Please make mistakes and work from them together.Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Place yourself first so you can become the best man you can be. It is at that point, you can take care of a submissive 100% Give yourself to her. Feel her presence as she kneels before you. Take each breath and understand those same hands around her neck will also be the same hands you will hold her with in aftercare. Be calm. Submissives hide when they feel scared. Never raise a voice, simply because you do not need to. Let her in who you are. Let her see the weakness you may have. Accept unconditional love. Do not have her ever second guess the submission and dominance of the relationship. Smile. Smile alot. Share with her how you need her to be at your mercy. Understand patience. Guarded woman are guarded for a reason. Learn why. Make her a priority. Communicate why you need her over your knee. Share with her you’re most powerful secrets. With a fist full of hair, explain to her in her ear what you need and will take. Never over step boundaries. Make her smile be the largest in the room. You will be the one to benefit 100% to learn her core. Be you. All of you. Just love her–and yourself.
Sincerely,
Tons of Beautiful Submissive Women”
Yes
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